| We all react to life's pain and misfortune in different | | | | Don't call, write, or publicly express your feelings to her |
| ways. Some of us after the breakup of a relationship | | | | for at least two weeks. Want to express yourself? |
| retreat into our selves; we stew in our own juices of | | | | Describe what you are feeling in a PRIVATE journal or |
| self-pity and denial. Other people turn hurt and pain into | | | | a series of personal, handwritten letters. Don't use the |
| rage and anger. We direct our frustrations outward; | | | | Internet! Don't share your feelings with people you can't |
| breaking personal belongings, expressing our contempt | | | | trust to protect your privacy and your feelings. |
| for others, or even threatening people we once loved. | | | | You might find that maintaining a respectful distance |
| Most mental health specialists claim that releasing | | | | helps you move into a period of more objective |
| negative, hurtful emotions is a good thing but the strong | | | | review of yourself, your ex and the relationship you |
| expression of your feelings could actually undermine | | | | share. The fits of rage or self-pity you experienced |
| chances of winning your ex back. Consider any | | | | immediately after the breakup might, several days |
| expressions of your feelings from the dissociated | | | | later, appear self-centered and immature. |
| perspective of a third person. | | | | The passage of time sometimes gives us greater |
| We all can accept displays of frustration and pain but | | | | objectivity and insight. You might also discover that the |
| within limits. One trick is to accept a partner's need for | | | | proverbs are true; time just doesn't heal but makes the |
| space. If your ex has said she doesn't want to speak | | | | heart grow fonder. As time passes, slowly share |
| to you, respect her request! Don't communicate with | | | | communications but only if they are well-received. You |
| her in any way for a few weeks! Consider this a real | | | | might be thankful that your more emotional outbursts |
| and reasonable "time" limit. | | | | immediately after a breakup were kept under wraps! |