Trauma 101 - What Parents Need to Know

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Parents of children with so-called ADHD, Bipolaraway. Students who experience trauma may develop
Disorder, learning disabilities anxiety disorders, evena sense that something bad is going to happen and
Pervasive Developmental Disorder need to knowthey need to be ready for it.
what trauma is for children and that the effects ofTrauma is Real or Perceived
trauma can be healed. Most times I interview parentsWhile there are some events that are obviously
they tell me their child has never experienced atraumatic, there are many others we simply assume
trauma. Yet when I ask more specific questions aboutare harmless when they are not. It is the perception of
accidents, injuries, falls, surgeries, hospitalizations,threat that is the critical factor. For instance, an
medical or dental procedures, as well as in utero andextremely loud sound like a car backfiring is a
delivery experiences, their face turns white.seemingly benign or harmless event, not obviously
Their memories are jogged. They suddenly recall thetraumatic. To someone who has been traumatized by
event. The one everyone told them was nothing, thatgun fire on the streets of their neighborhood, however,
their child would outgrow because, after all, children aresuch a sound may conjure up previously terrifying or
resilient. Worse, they are told that their child will neverlife-threatening situations. It is how the event(s) is
remember the event. "They're so young," they say,perceived and experienced by the individual that
"They're just babies. They don't even speak."matters.
Parents know, however, that after the event, howeverEvents that are more obviously traumatic include:
seemingly benign or routine, their child was never the- war
same, and the neuroscience supports them. Both the- rape
central and autonomic nervous system can be- torture
changed in very specific ways after a traumatic event.- severe childhood abuse and/or molestation
But what is trauma for a child? What exactly can be- witnessing or experiencing domestic violence
considered traumatic for them? This is what too many- large catastrophic events, such as Hurricane Katrina
parents, educators, mental health providers, even- community violence, such as witnessing or
medical doctors do not know.experiencing an act of violence as in the case of
To become traumatized, a child must have had anColumbine and the many more recent school terror
experience or multiple experiences of terror, ansituations
encounter with the possibility of death. It is the body- near death experiences, such as almost drowning
experiencing a threat to its own survival. It does not(even in the bathtub) or suffocating to death
matter whether the event that threatened or terrifiedLess obviously traumatic events include:
the child was real or not. It does not matter whether or- chronic disease or serious illness
not someone else would experience the same event- physical neglect and abandonment
as threatening or terrifying. Trauma for children is any- fetal distress (high levels of stress during pregnancy
event - real or perceived - that is terrifying orand/or birth)
threatening to them.- birth complications
Not everyone who experiences a traumatic event- surgery and other invasive medical or dental
becomes traumatized. Depending upon how manyprocedures, especially when they involve restraint or
resources are available at the time of the event, asisolation
well as whether or not previous traumas have been- general anesthesia
experienced, some do well in the face of danger and- car accidents, major or minor
carry on without any noticeable sign of what they- falls, injuries or other accidents (even on bicycles)
went through. Others, even if at first they seem all- being threatened, attacked or bitten by an animal
right, later develop signs and symptoms that something- sudden death or loss of a loved one
is not the same.- prolonged immobilization from casting or splinting
Traumatic effects are not always noticeable- high fevers, accidental poisoning, exposure to
immediately following the event(s) that caused them.extremes in temperature
An early fall that causes shock or injury may produce- being lost, i.e. at the mall or in a strange neighborhood
no obvious problems at first. It may not be until years- bullying
later, until another frightening event occurs that the- acts of racism and prejudice
effects of a previous incident begin to show. Dr. PeterRemember, even if one or more of these events
Levine, a leading expert on the healing of trauma,occur during the earliest years of life, they have the
wrote in his book, "Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma,"potential to traumatize. No matter how young, even
that "symptoms can remain dormant, accumulatingpreverbal children experience trauma and remember
over years or even decades. Then, during a stressfulterror in the very cells of their body. Infants and
period, or as a result of another incident, they cantoddlers may be too young to verbalize and cognitively
show up without warning."process traumatic experiences but they are not too
As weeks, months, and years pass, children whoyoung to be changed by them. (For more information,
seemed "just fine" immediately after a crisis may beginplease read "Why Students Underachieve: What
to struggle with their sleeping patterns, eating patterns,Educators and Parents Can Do about It," pages 47,
level of concentration, and/or ability to focus and be in48.)
the here and now. Some may become more agitated,Most importantly, know that trauma can be healed, and
more easily upset, and more difficult to soothe. Theywhen it is, all so-called symptoms go away. These
may report a sore tummy, headaches, or pain in theirchildren do not have lifelong disorders that can only be
limbs. Others may report nightmares, difficultymanaged by medication and therapy.