| When many people find out that they are suffering | | | | When many people find out that they are suffering |
| from cancer, they regard it as a death sentence. | | | | from cancer they regard it as a death sentence. |
| Whilst depression is understandable, giving up should | | | | Whilst depression is understandable giving up should |
| not be an option. Because the more positive and | | | | not be an option, because the more positive and |
| upbeat you are then the more likely you are to survive | | | | upbeat you are then the more likely you are to survive |
| cancer. One of the first things that you have to do is | | | | cancer. One of the first things that you have to do is |
| reconcile your hopes and dreams with your | | | | reconcile your hopes and dreams with your |
| subconscious. | | | | subconscious. |
| Work out what it is that you want from your | | | | Work out what it is that you want form your |
| treatment and whether it is realistic to achieve | | | | treatment and whether it is realistic to achieve |
| whatever you want, then use your medical team to | | | | whatever you want, then use your medical team to |
| assist in those goals. There is never a single way to | | | | assist in those goals. There is never a single way to |
| approach anything in life and this is as true for curing | | | | approach anything in life and this is as true fro curing |
| cancer as anything else. There are many paths that | | | | cancer as anything else. There are many paths that |
| you can take, it may meander there or climb a | | | | you can take it may meander there or climb a |
| mountain metaphorically. What is important to | | | | mountain metaphorically. What is important to |
| remember is the fact that it is your goal and your path, | | | | remember is the fact that it is your goal and your path, |
| now is not the time to fulfill someone else dream. | | | | now is not the time to fulfill someone else dream. |
| You need to create a plan and take specific steps | | | | You need to create a plan and take specific steps |
| and actions to get you from where you are now to | | | | and actions to get you from where you are now to |
| where you ultimately want to be. It is important to | | | | where you ultimately want to be. It is important to |
| focus on the how rather than the outer goal. For | | | | focus on the how rather than the outer gaol. For |
| instance you may decide that you want to be a five | | | | instance you may decide that you want to be a five |
| year cancer survivor, but the important thing is how | | | | year cancer survivor, but the important thing is how |
| you are going to achieve that objective. If necessary | | | | you are going to achieve that objective. If necessary |
| make room in your life for new objectives, get rid of | | | | make room in your life for new objectives, get rid of |
| any extra baggage, now is the time to focus on | | | | any extra baggage now is the time to focus on you. |
| yourself. That does not mean push your family away | | | | That does not mean push your family away or ignore |
| or ignore them, but it does mean saying no to things | | | | them, but it does mean saying no to things that you do |
| that you do not want to do. Women find saying no | | | | not want to do. Women find saying no especially |
| especially difficult, but somehow you have to find a | | | | difficult, but somehow you have to find a way and |
| way and reconcile your self conscious desires and | | | | reconcile your self conscious desires and your actions. |
| your actions. | | | | From a psychological point of view that reconciliation is |
| From a psychological point of view that reconciliation is | | | | important. When we deny ourselves what we really |
| important. When we deny ourselves what we really | | | | want to do, we create tension between out conscious |
| want to do, we create tension between out conscious | | | | desires and our subconscious desires. Your mind |
| desires and our subconscious desires. Your mind | | | | power and your subconscious mind work together and |
| power and your subconscious mind work together and | | | | they fashion your reality. Let's use a parallel to help you |
| they fashion your reality. Let's use a parallel to help you | | | | visualize how this works. Your subconscious mind is |
| visualize how this works. Your subconscious mind is | | | | the part of your mind that you are not aware of your |
| the part of your mind that you are not aware of your | | | | thoughts, but if you ignore it, it can create tensions in |
| thoughts, but if you ignore it, it can create tensions in | | | | our lives known as Freudian slips. Which means the |
| our lives known as Freudian slips. Which means the | | | | subconscious has a way of telling us what we really |
| subconscious has a way of telling us what we really | | | | want? On a conscious level we may want to be kind |
| want? On a conscious level we may want to be kind | | | | and understanding, but we can be petty and mean. |
| and understanding, but we can be petty and mean. | | | | Our subconscious is rather like a fertile soil any seed at |
| Our subconscious is rather like a fertile soil any seed at | | | | all can take root. These seeds are your habitual |
| all can take root. These seeds are your habitual | | | | thoughts and the things that you believe in and |
| thoughts and the things that you believe in and | | | | eventually they will grow to produce a crop. So if you |
| eventually they will grow to produce a crop. So if you | | | | plant weeds then you will get weeds in abundance |
| plant weeds then you will get weeds in abundance | | | | and if you plant fruit tress then you will get masses of |
| and if you plant fruit tress then you will get masses of | | | | fruit. Our conscious mind that deals with all our |
| fruit. Our conscious mind that deals with all our | | | | conscious thoughts is the cultivator; it can grow |
| conscious thoughts is the cultivator; it can grow | | | | anything in the subconscious. |
| anything in the subconscious. | | | | Our conscious mind can impart a sense of failure or a |
| Our conscious mind can impart a sense of failure or a | | | | mindset that we cannot fail at anything. It will not allow |
| mindset that we cannot fail at anything. It will not allow | | | | ourselves to be distracted in whatever out |
| ourselves to be distracted in whatever our | | | | subconscious wants. Our subconscious can not hold |
| subconscious wants. Our subconscious can not hold | | | | success and failure at the same time, because our |
| success and failure at the same time, because our | | | | subconscious cannot be ambivalent, it wants one thing |
| subconscious cannot be ambivalent, it wants one thing | | | | and one thing only. It is our conscious mind that is |
| and one thing only. It is our conscious mind that is | | | | ambivalent. Make sure that your conscious and |
| ambivalent. Make sure that your conscious and | | | | unconscious mind both want the same things, there is |
| unconscious mind both want the same things, there is | | | | no room for doubt. |
| no room for doubt. | | | | |