| When I sought to help married couples, it was because | | | | So allow me to “mediate” you… |
| of my experience with the family law court system. I | | | | Every marriage counselor has a list of divorce lawyers |
| saw for myself how destructive it is for families and | | | | and mediators they will refer you to after they have |
| our society. It is like a predatory virus. As soon as | | | | “done all they could” for you. When you |
| you’re exposed to it, the door is open for | | | | get to divorce court, clinical psychologists who were |
| tremendous suffering. It has been perpetuating itself | | | | trained in the same schools as the counselors who |
| through an unholy alliance with marriage counselors | | | | failed you, will now decide what is best for your kids. |
| and clinical psychologists. | | | | One parent will likely be condemned and the other will |
| Marriage counseling is regulated. In California and | | | | be seen as a victim. Your children will get it. One of |
| probably most states the license is only available to | | | | you, one of the two foundational pillars of their |
| those who are certified by state boards. In order to | | | | existence, will be seen as flawed and not good |
| pass you must be trained in western psychology; no | | | | enough. Or, in a “better” scenario, their |
| other modality is accepted. Unfortunately, their record | | | | parents will be at odds for years to come. |
| of resuscitating troubled marriages is pathetic (under | | | | Marriage counseling works less then a broken clock. Its |
| 6% success rate, I have heard). | | | | focus is on the negatives in your marriage when you |
| Others who are legally allowed to help are lawyers | | | | need to shift your focus to the positives and stay |
| and religious leaders. When I began my practice of | | | | there. Now that I have written what I think is a manual |
| helping marriages with an approach I invented, I was | | | | for marriage, I rarely work with couples. It is far simpler |
| told by my lawyers I could go to jail. | | | | to be happy in marriage then anyone thinks possible. |
| So what?... | | | | Reading the lessons is usually all anyone needs. Some |
| I needed to test my science and snuck under the | | | | folks don’t even need the lessons. They just |
| radar by remaining a mediator. My own success rate | | | | need to remember they married the best person on |
| was nearly 100%. | | | | Earth. |