| Marriage counseling is one of the most ridiculous | | | | and nobody wants to step in it. If you are angry with |
| industries in our country. Marriage issues cannot be | | | | your spouse all you are doing is blocking the sunshine |
| solved through marriage counseling but they can be | | | | of love. Don't try to tell me you can't help it. It is your |
| solved by married couples. If things get really haywire it | | | | mind that is infected with anger and it is you who can |
| means the couple doesn't understand marriage or the | | | | rid your mind of that anger. If your spouse is angry at |
| behavior required to bring peace, harmony and joy into | | | | you then you need to become very compassionate |
| their marital relationship. | | | | and understanding without pandering. |
| Why do marriage counselors think they can help | | | | 2) Stop making such a big deal of things you won't |
| married couples anyway? Everybody knows the | | | | even remember tomorrow |
| divorce rate for married marriage counselors is about | | | | The world is constantly poking at you, I know. But don't |
| the same for all other groups. It isn't like they go to | | | | take it out on your spouse. If they do something that |
| "how to be married" schools and I know they don't | | | | appears to be offensive towards you it is up to you to |
| read my Lessons For A Happy Marriage because if | | | | remind yourself that they are not perfect either and |
| they used the tools I offer they would have to | | | | obviously suffering at the hands of the world also. |
| become car mechanics or something; their clients | | | | Face the world together. It is better to take things in |
| issues would be resolved so fast their practices would | | | | stride by looking past them and seeing the love in the |
| dissolve quicker than the so-called issues. | | | | heart of your spouse. That is what attracted you to |
| It is a great shame that the marriage counseling | | | | them in the first place. Look past everything else and |
| industry has co-opted all others who wish to help | | | | love them with all your heart. |
| married couples by making it illegal for anyone other | | | | 3) Get rid of your expectations |
| than them and a few others to help professionally. In | | | | Most people live day to day looking forward to a |
| the state of California only lawyers (what do they | | | | vacation or a birthday party. Be different; think of |
| know about being married?!), ordained ministers (I | | | | ways you can improve yourself as a human being and |
| happen to agree with that one), and licensed | | | | focus on that work. If you do that your expectations |
| psychologists (who have proven they don't know a | | | | about how you should be treated and what is fair will |
| thing about marriage by their results over the last | | | | soon dissipate and cause you no more grief. |
| hundred years) are allowed to give professional marital | | | | 4) Become a channel of God's love |
| counseling advice. It is time to lift the veil and admit that | | | | When you see yourself as a working servant for God |
| being married is only tough for those who are | | | | you won't have time to entertain so-called issues within |
| uneducated about marriage. | | | | your marriage because you will be too busy showing |
| I'm not the only one who offers help to those with | | | | your spouse how much you love them. |
| marital problems in the form of useful lessons. I'm sure | | | | 5) Be grateful for what you get and what you have |
| that any practical human being who takes a close look | | | | The suffering in this world is more than anyone could |
| at marriage, as I have, will come up with pretty much | | | | bear and the potential you have for love and security |
| the same "how to" manual that I came up with. | | | | is a gift you should accept with an open and grateful |
| Here are five simple ways to resolve marriage issues | | | | heart. |
| that you can start using right now, without a college | | | | The rules for a harmonious marriage are accessible to |
| degree. | | | | everyone. And the logic behind using the rules could |
| 1) Stop being angry with your spouse and stop | | | | not be simpler; follow the rules and have a great |
| demonstrating your anger | | | | marriage. |
| Anger is the equivalent of doggy do. It stinks, it sticks, | | | | |