Decisions That Produce Conflicting Positive & Negative Outcomes

I am sharing a personal experience with ahad never done a harmful thing in his life, out of a
dear friends son, who is a wonderfully intelligent andtroubling and terrifying situation and in finding an
benevolent soul.  After spending four years in the airassistant living place for his mom that is working out
force, graduating from ITT and settling down in a veryextremely well for all concerned. The young man is
excellent career choice in technology, somethingliving a normal life today with his wife and young
happened to this quietly charming and smart youngdaughter.  I believe, because the system allowed for
man, that would change our lives forever.an investigation on his mother and in revealing her
 This young man drove from Virginia to Maryland onemedical records saved this young man's life.
night and ended up in jail with a future sentence of 15 There were obligations, as loving family memebers,
years, five of which included a handgun charge.obligations of prosecutors, doctors, judges, etc... in
Although the handgun was registered, it was takenassuring that the young man would not cause harm to
across state lines. The striking part about this particularhimself or anyone else. There were moral ideals,
saga is that he had no idea as to why he woke upreferencing the art of temperance, justice and fortitude
one morning in jail!  All he could remember was drivingthat seemed prevalent and more difficult to think
home from work that evening. It was sad to find outaround and bring about than ever before as the
that it all happened because he had a 50% chance ofconsequences neared, that was simply unthinkable.
acquiring an illness from his mother.  He simply had a In creating my own system to use for making ethical
nervous break down at the age of 27.  He haddecisions where there are conflicting and moral issues
acquired the responsibility of taking care of hisand in analyzing the strengths and weaknesses in my
cancer-ridden father, who had recently transitioned andapproach, I use my friend's son experience.  Before
his mother who was diagnosed with schizophreniapassing judgment, before allowing my imagination to
many years prior. It seemed that when his grandrun wild, before making any decision, I would hope to
-mother died, he decided to become solely responsibletry to put myself in the position of that person's
for his mother.  He also had the responsibility of hiscircumstance. After positioning myself as deemed
younger sister. He had subconsciously driven toappropriate, I would begin to study the details of the
Maryland to get help from family members, but insteadcase in question and providing, as well as including all
ended up listening to the voices in his head that toldrelevant parties/professionals as part of the
him to rob a near by gas station.  Immediately thedecision-making efforts.  I know, from this experience,
attendants knew that something was wrong with thisthat things are hardly ever the way they seem. The
young man because it was not a normal robbery. strength in using my system is the idea of one simply
The young man stood there, with tears in his eyes,developing the need to work towards innocence
apologizing, taking no money and handing over therather than to find fault and victory in guilt.  I believe
unloaded gun to the attendant.  He appeared,that people are innocent before guilty and that each
harmless while the attendant called the police.  Whencase has a profound story of truth and untruth in its
the police arrived, they could clearly see that this youngown light.  We must allow truth as much time as we
man was distraught and by no means violent orallow for untruth. We have not done this because
harmful, but instead remorseful and obedientlythere are many innocent people in jail today.  The
disoriented. To make a long story short, the youngweaknesses in my system may be that I allow too
man ended up in jail.  It was not very long before hemuch room for compassion and empathy.  As noted
was taken to a mental facility and diagnosed with ain the article, A Framework for Ethical Decision Making,
mild form of schizophrenia, clearly derived from stress"Ethics in not the same as feelings, religion, law,
and genetically inherited from his mother.  Theculturally accepted norms, or science, but in following
doctors assured the family that it was probably athe right approach".  I believe that one's ethical action
once in a lifetime occurrence and suggested that hecan be the last resort in protecting the innocence and
be medicated and relieve of such a stressful life.  Therevealing the guilty, no matter what the circumstance
family spend thousands on attorney fees andor situation.
specialist, in an attempt to get this young man, who