Crazy Making and Domestic Violence - 3 Kinds of Crazy Making Behavior

What is crazy making? We hear about it; we stumblefrequently tell me how their abusive partners tell them
upon it; we are subjected to it; and we even do it tothey are crazy at the very time in which they are
others. But what is it? And how do you know it whenmost sound. Or, they tell them that situations are
you see it?different from the way they see or know them to be
Most often when we use the term "crazy making,"even when they are most certain.
we're referring to the conduct of someone that doesCruel, Heinous Crazy Making
just that-his or her behavior makes you crazy. YouNow there is another form of mental psychological
know it's the goofy things that people do that makeabuse that has the exact same intention, but far more
you "nuts." Thus, the term "crazy making."serious consequences. If you have read my writing
Did you know there are actually three kinds of thisyou know what's coming. It's the crazy making that is
form of psychological abuse?more literal.
Innocent Crazy MakingIt's the crazy making in which I tell you, you are
Now sometimes this behavior can be one's innocentpsychiatrically and certifiably crazy. And to substantiate
human idiosyncrasies, like the way some peoplemy allegations, I secure the opinion of an expert crazy
squeeze their toothpaste tube. It's the personal quirksdiagnostician: a psychologist or psychiatrist. Thus, I
that can be crazy-making to other individuals.officially make you crazy.
Malicious Mental AbuseNow if you are a domestic violence survivor, who is in
Or, it can be malicious behaviors intended to confusecombat with an abuser using the healthcare and legal
you, as in the case of "gas-lighting." That is telling yousystem to discredit or silence you and your
something or doing something to make you think thingsvictimization, you know this strategy.
are different from the way you intuitively know themThe most important thing you can do for yourself and
to be.your children is to make sure you do not step into the
Abusers are very good at this malicious form ofcrazy shoes because if you do, you will be wearing
mental abuse. It's as though they enjoy casting doubtthe crazy hat for the rest of your life.
amidst your clarity. My patients and newsletter readers