Anger Management Strategies - Anger In Children, Is It Nature or Nurture?

The number of children who display extremely poorbecome aggressive and feel no remorse over forcing
anger management skills and a lack of impulse controltheir will on others.
is on the rise. Headlines about children murdering otherSome young people turn to violence because they do
children, committing school shootings, and killing theirnot see other ways to endure what they're feeling at
parents have led some people to wonder if somethat moment. They may not understand the
children just born bad. Or are these children merelyconsequences of violent behavior.
victims of a poor-quality home environment? Are theyThese tips may help if you think your child who is
a product of nature, nurture, or a combination of both?withdrawing or exploding too easily over everyday
There may be organic causes of brain dysfunctionfrustrations:
that precipitate children toward such aggressive, angry,- Look at your own anger management skills. Are you
and destructive behaviors. There is some evidencemodeling good skills for children to imitate?
suggesting that excessive stress during pregnancy- Teach basic problem solving skills and anger
can cause a higher level of testosterone in hormonalmanagement. When upsetting things happen, the child
bathing, producing a child who is chemically more pronewho has practiced these skills will be more likely to
to anger and hostility.think through the consequences and ultimately be
Another possible reason for these tendencies could bebetter able to make nonviolent choices.
severe physical abuse leading to damage of the- Show confidence in his or her ability to develop good
frontal lobes of the brain, the area that helps controlanger management skills, and model positive behaviors.
impulses and reactions.- Encourage the child to walk away from sources of
Children grow up angry when they experience familystress and spend some time doing activities he or she
aggression or those whose needs are neglected byenjoys. A change of scenery or activity can provide
their parents. They have the belief that no one caresdistraction from the source of the anger.
about them. Excessive stress in their early lives may- Tell your child that everyone experiences anger, talk
cause changes in their brain chemistry. These abusedabout the last time you felt really angry, and share the
and/or neglected children grow up viewing others aspositive ways to handle anger.
objects to be used. Their lack of early socializationIf none of these approaches work, seek help. Talk to a
skills and bonding make them into uncaring adults whodoctor or pediatrician. You may decide that your child
feel justified in hurting others. They see the aggressorand family need help learning positive anger
in the home as holding all the power, and they cravemanagement skills from someone with professional
that power for themselves. This leads them tomental health training.