| How do you know when you like someone?
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| | interact with the same people regularly.
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| If you're like most people, it's a gut
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| | Become a familiar face, and soon you'll
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| feeling. You just "know."
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| | find that men are more interested.
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| As a result, if you asked a man to
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| | 3. Similarity
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| explain why he was attracted to a woman,
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| | This is a crucial attraction factor from
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| he would probably tell you the wrong
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| | a statistical point of view. According
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| answers. He would say that it was her
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| | to "Sex in America: A Definitive Survey,"
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| personality or her smile or the way she
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| | people tend to marry partners who are
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| laughed. But he didn't make the decision
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| | similar in age, in education, in
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| to be attracted to her from his head; he
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| | religion, and in race or ethnic
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| felt it in his heart.
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| | background.
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| Most of us don't tend to examine how we
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| | We tend to marry people like us for a
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| form feelings of attraction. All we know
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| | variety of reasons. Many partners tend
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| is that we feel an irresistible force
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| | to meet through their social network,
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| drawing us closer to another person.
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| | which implies that they already have a
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| Many more factors are at work in creating
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| | good deal of things in common.
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| attraction than the obvious traits of
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| | Relationships based on a common set of
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| appearance, personality, and sexual
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| | values tend to face fewer conflicts when
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| chemistry. Today, I'm going to share
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| | it comes to big life decisions like
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| four crucial factors that create
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| | childrearing.
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| attraction and tell you what they mean
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| | What this means for you is twofold.
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| for YOU.
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| | First, you should recognize that focusing
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| First of all, let me clarify something.
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| | your dating efforts on meeting people
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| Attractiveness is not simply a measure of
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| | with whom you already share something in
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| objectively "attractive" traits in a
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| | common (like a hobby, a profession, or
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| person. No one is ever attractive on
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| | the same group of friends) will yield
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| their own; they're always attractive TO
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| | greater results than hoping to bump into
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| someone. For example, when you look in
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| | the "perfect man" on the street, on the
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| the mirror, you decide whether or not you
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| | bus, or in a crowded nightclub.
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| are attractive to yourself. This doesn't
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| | Second, it is always best to play up your
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| mean that someone else will look at you
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| | similarities rather than your differences
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| and judge your attractiveness in the same
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| | when you first meet someone that you are
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| way.
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| | interested in. Find out what you have in
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| Social psychology has determined that
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| | common, even if it's as basic as a
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| there are multiple factors that influence
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| | similar taste in music, and build your
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| interpersonal attraction - and, lo and
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| | conversation from that point.
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| behold, physical attractiveness is only
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| | 4. Reciprocal liking
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| one of them.
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| | This is one of my favorite factors of
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| 1. Propinquity
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| | attraction: it's the theory that you can
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| The first factor is "propinquity," which
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| | encourage someone's interest in you
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| means that people tend to form
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| | simply by showing your interest in them.
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| relationships with others living nearby.
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| | We all know people who've liked us
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| For example, the chances of you starting
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| | immensely since the moment they met us,
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| a relationship with someone from Denmark
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| | and it's almost impossible not to like
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| are much lower than the chances of you
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| | them back. There's something enormously
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| starting a relationship with someone who
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| | flattering about being liked by someone,
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| lives in your town.
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| | especially if they're an attractive
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| This has two implications. First of all,
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| | member of the opposite sex.
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| dismissing local men from your dating
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| | This principle raises doubts about the
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| radar may not be a good idea. I know
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| | effectiveness of the "ice queen"
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| many women who will only date men who are
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| | technique, whereby women pretend to be
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| NOT from their hometown. No matter what
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| | aloof and indifferent in order to make
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| their opinions are about "local boys,"
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| | men pursue them. There is no sound
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| they're certainly lowering their chances
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| | scientific research proving that it pays
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| of finding a partner.
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| | to act coldly, UNLESS the other person is
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| Second, you can decrease the distance
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| | super-attractive and used to women
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| between you and thousands of eligible men
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| | fawning all over him. For 90% of us,
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| with the click of a button. That's
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| | acting in friendly and interested manner
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| right: with the internet. Internet
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| | will ignite a reciprocal liking.
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| dating brings thousands of eligible
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| | So what should you do? Smile! Let a man
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| singles into close contact, making
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| | know that you enjoy his company. For shy
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| geographical distance less of an
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| | guys, or guys who are afraid of
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| obstacle.
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| | rejection, your display of interest will
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| 2. Familiarity
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| | be exactly what he needs to get the
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| The second factor is "familiarity," also
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| | courage to take your interaction to the
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| known as the "exposure effect." This
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| | next step.
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| means that you tend to like a person that
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| | Now that you understand some of the
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| you see more often, or that you're
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| | genuine factors that influence why people
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| familiar with. This explains why so many
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| | find each other attractive, you're ready
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| students and co-workers tend to form
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| | to find out how you can move beyond mere
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| relationships: they see one another on a
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| | attractiveness to irresistibility. Find
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| regular basis in the classroom or in the
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| | out more in my premium course on "How to
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| office.
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| | Be Irresistible to Men." You'll discover
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| For you, this means that you can increase
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| | how to work on a deeper level to increase
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| your attractiveness to men by being a
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| | your irresistible allure, attract love
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| "regular." Make a habit of going to the
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| | into your life, and heal baggage left
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| same cafés. Go to the gym at the same
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| | from the past.
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| time every day. Join a club where you
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