How To Attract Men

How do you know when you like someone? If you'reinteract with the same people regularly. Become a
like most people, it's a gut feeling. You just "know."familiar face, and soon you'll find that men are more
As a result, if you asked a man to explain why heinterested.
was attracted to a woman, he would probably tell you3. Similarity
the wrong answers. He would say that it was herThis is a crucial attraction factor from a statistical point
personality or her smile or the way she laughed. But heof view. According to "Sex in America: A Definitive
didn't make the decision to be attracted to her from hisSurvey," people tend to marry partners who are similar
head; he felt it in his heart.in age, in education, in religion, and in race or ethnic
Most of us don't tend to examine how we formbackground.
feelings of attraction. All we know is that we feel anWe tend to marry people like us for a variety of
irresistible force drawing us closer to another person.reasons. Many partners tend to meet through their
Many more factors are at work in creating attractionsocial network, which implies that they already have a
than the obvious traits of appearance, personality, andgood deal of things in common. Relationships based on
sexual chemistry. Today, I'm going to share four cruciala common set of values tend to face fewer conflicts
factors that create attraction and tell you what theywhen it comes to big life decisions like childrearing.
mean for YOU.What this means for you is twofold. First, you should
First of all, let me clarify something. Attractiveness isrecognize that focusing your dating efforts on meeting
not simply a measure of objectively "attractive" traits inpeople with whom you already share something in
a person. No one is ever attractive on their own;common (like a hobby, a profession, or the same
they're always attractive TO someone. For example,group of friends) will yield greater results than hoping to
when you look in the mirror, you decide whether or notbump into the "perfect man" on the street, on the bus,
you are attractive to yourself. This doesn't mean thator in a crowded nightclub.
someone else will look at you and judge yourSecond, it is always best to play up your similarities
attractiveness in the same way.rather than your differences when you first meet
Social psychology has determined that there aresomeone that you are interested in. Find out what you
multiple factors that influence interpersonal attraction -have in common, even if it's as basic as a similar taste
and, lo and behold, physical attractiveness is only onein music, and build your conversation from that point.
of them.4. Reciprocal liking
1. PropinquityThis is one of my favorite factors of attraction: it's the
The first factor is "propinquity," which means thattheory that you can encourage someone's interest in
people tend to form relationships with others livingyou simply by showing your interest in them.
nearby. For example, the chances of you starting aWe all know people who've liked us immensely since
relationship with someone from Denmark are muchthe moment they met us, and it's almost impossible not
lower than the chances of you starting a relationshipto like them back. There's something enormously
with someone who lives in your town.flattering about being liked by someone, especially if
This has two implications. First of all, dismissing localthey're an attractive member of the opposite sex.
men from your dating radar may not be a good idea. IThis principle raises doubts about the effectiveness of
know many women who will only date men who arethe "ice queen" technique, whereby women pretend to
NOT from their hometown. No matter what theirbe aloof and indifferent in order to make men pursue
opinions are about "local boys," they're certainlythem. There is no sound scientific research proving
lowering their chances of finding a partner.that it pays to act coldly, UNLESS the other person is
Second, you can decrease the distance between yousuper-attractive and used to women fawning all over
and thousands of eligible men with the click of a button.him. For 90% of us, acting in friendly and interested
That's right: with the internet. Internet dating bringsmanner will ignite a reciprocal liking.
thousands of eligible singles into close contact, makingSo what should you do? Smile! Let a man know that
geographical distance less of an obstacle.you enjoy his company. For shy guys, or guys who
2. Familiarityare afraid of rejection, your display of interest will be
The second factor is "familiarity," also known as theexactly what he needs to get the courage to take
"exposure effect." This means that you tend to like ayour interaction to the next step.
person that you see more often, or that you're familiarNow that you understand some of the genuine factors
with. This explains why so many students andthat influence why people find each other attractive,
co-workers tend to form relationships: they see oneyou're ready to find out how you can move beyond
another on a regular basis in the classroom or in themere attractiveness to irresistibility. Find out more in my
office.premium course on "How to Be Irresistible to Men."
For you, this means that you can increase yourYou'll discover how to work on a deeper level to
attractiveness to men by being a "regular." Make aincrease your irresistible allure, attract love into your life,
habit of going to the same cafés. Go to the gymand heal baggage left from the past.
at the same time every day. Join a club where you