Emotional Literacy and Our Life

We, at our young age, should be treated by ourSome parents tend to think that valuing and promoting
parents, as well as people around, not as if we're littleemotional literacy is a 'soft option'. They feel that the
kids, but adults who have their own point of view andvalues behind the teaching might be more lenient in the
are able to express our feelings and thoughts. In theway bullies are dealt with. I feel that when you look at
same way that we talk about ourselves as being ablethe reasons behind bullying you tend to find it is
to read and write; being literate, so too, we all havebecause the children concerned cannot express their
varying degrees of emotional literacy. The degree, toemotions. They find the easiest way to deal with things
which we are emotionally literate, therefore reflectsis to hit out. Basically the bully is emotionally illiterate.
the degree to which we are able to recognize,I would like to examine for this essay a project that
understand, handle and appropriately express ourhas taken place at the local school where I am
emotions. Just like any other type of literacy, some ofemployed. We had a problem with bullying in our older
us are better at it than others.classes and worked with 4 Year 6 pupils who had a
Schools and parents tend to look at only one part of ahistory of quarrelling and victimizing other pupils. Our
child's life. When we look at a child's mental andmain aims were to help the pupils deal with their
emotional well being we have to look at the wholefeelings, take into consideration the feelings of other
picture. One of the main factors here is the child'speople, develop their emotional literacy and learn new
quality of life. Services and parents alike often simplyways of behaving and managing their emotions. The
try to meet children's basic needs such as how happychildren were managed by a senior teacher who had
they are, what they own etc, but when we are lookingover 20 years experience. She was managed by the
at their quality of life we need to do much more thanschool SEN co-coordinator and also the head teacher.
this. We should be looking at helping them fulfill their fullIt is very hard for a pupil, who is not emotionally literate
potential.. Whilst we may think our child's quality of life isto express how they feel so puppets were used for
good i.e. they have all of the latest games, trainers,role play, movement and dance were used for
clothes we may actually be lowering this by not givingenabling them to access feelings in a less threatening
them enough independence or taking their views asway than through talking. Art was also used and the
seriously as we should.pupils were asked to paint or draw how they were
During reading I carried out an activity that involvedfeeling. Relaxation techniques were also introduced at
looking at sources of emotional and mental stress.the end of each session teaching the children ways of
Those I listed that could cause ill-health amongst adultsletting off steam rather than hitting out or shouting.
were - stress at work, money worries, bad or brokenResults were not expected immediately but as it was
relationships, being a single parent and having the abilitysome of the children appeared to be happier and
to be able to fit in at work/in your social life. Althoughmore relaxed fairly quickly. We know, as a school that
these were the problems I thought of, they could easilythe project needs to be ongoing. These children and
be adapted to the life of my 6 year old daughter but inmany others after them will need support over a
a different context. Whilst I try and gloss over a lot ofperiod of time.
the problems I may have so as not to affect her I amAlthough schools have an important role to play in the
sure she is acutely aware of what is going on. Bydevelopment of emotional literacy, the home is the
trying to shield her from these worries, I and manymost important source of training for children. Children
other parents like me could actually be suppressingwho come from homes where emotional literacy is
opportunities for our children to develop ways ofpromoted tend to tolerate frustration better, get into
dealing with such tensions, thus improving their qualityfewer fights, and have greater academic achievement.
of life and helping them to become emotionally literate.Ways of introducing emotional literacy into the family
As I have mentioned briefly above it is not only adultswould be giving people in the family choices, letting
who have problems, children have to cope with seriousthem be heard and using everyone's strengths (even if
adversity as well. How they cope with this adversitythey are the youngest member of the family).
can be linked to the way in which they are taught toBeing emotionally literate is not only beneficial as a
express their emotions and talk about problems.way for children to express their emotions. Studies
Negative coping strategies include things like ignoringhave been carried out and one of the main reports in
the problem, blaming themselves and wishing it away.this field The Mental Health Foundation Report The Big
In this situation the child would be keeping everything in,Picture. Promoting children and young people's mental
taking the strain on themselves and possibly harboringhealth (1999) stated that emotionally literate children are
any guilt.less likely to experience mental health problems in the
Keeping all of these emotions shut up inside wouldlong term. The report also stated that emotional
obviously affect their emotional and mental health nowliteracy is gained from a combination of schools,
and in the future. A child who has been taught to talkparents and wider social networks. The point they are
about his/her problems becomes resilient. They knowmaking is that due to today's environment with children
how to express their emotions and deal with thebeing frightened of abuse, the fears on our modern
problem. Rather than finding all of the negative pointsroads and the fact that the extended family is no
they tend to look for a 'silver lining' and deal with this inlonger as tight knit as it once was, children are not
a way that solves the problem. They manage to growused to making and consolidating friendships and
up to be happy, healthy and 'together'.dealing with conflict as they once were. They are not
Just like 'traditional' forms of literacy, emotional literacyused to taking risks or playing team games. They see
starts with simple learning of concepts and skills.the implementation of emotional literacy as a wide
Teaching children how to listen to others, how toscale project. As I mentioned earlier schools would
empathies (recognize and understand other people'shave to start looking at the whole child i.e. its health and
feelings) and also how to recognize and listen to theirmental health as well as the academic side and mental
own is a key factor in the 'teaching' of emotionalhealth agencies would have to start making provision
literacy. Children who are emotionally competent haveto cover the development of initiatives in this area.
an increased desire to learn and to achieve, both withinEmotional literacy is an important area in childhood and
school and without. They are likely to be passionatesomething that should be promoted. Teaching children
and curious, self-confident and stable.emotional literacy along with the 'normal' literacy and
In the London Borough of Enfield, primary schools havenumeracy they are taught in the school and home
started up 'nurture groups' for any children showingenvironment will surely make the likelihood of them
signs of emotional and behavioral problems. Nurtureachieving maturity, balance and a higher skill level earlier
groups are special classes and provide a structuredin life much greater. In business employees are being
and predictable environment. These groups encourageencouraged to work in ways that require high levels of
the children to trust adults and to learn. The staff in theinterpersonal skills. Emotionally literate adults can be
nurture groups have backup from the LEA's advisorymore successful in their chosen careers and in their
staff and parents are regularly involved in informalpersonal lives.
sessions and discussions about their child's progress.Children need to be given practice at dealing with
(As you can see from this example there is a wideadversity and taught how to take it in their stride. They
network of support for the pupil/child. They have backneed to be able to deal with the problems that life can
up from their teachers who also speak and consultthrow at them and talk about the feelings they have in
with their parents, but on a wider scale the school hasan honest and truthful way. In today's modern society
back up from the Local Education Authority.we tend to be slightly over-protective, sometimes
Highfield Junior School in Plymouth is a school that hasjustifiably so, but our children need to find ways of
introduced a new code of discipline to promotecoping with problems and developing ways of dealing
positive behavior. Circle time was introduced to try andwith difficult situations, they need to become resilient.
build up group rapport, identify as a class, the needsThey cannot do this if they are shielded from
and strengths of all members, offer solutions andproblems. By promoting emotional literacy in the home
support to an individual when they have a problemand school environment we will be strengthening the
such as bullying and to try and solve any disputeschildren of our future and hopefully creating a calmer
through group discussions.and more emotionally literate workforce.